I believe fat people are beautiful but I think there should also be a focus on liking your fat body for reasons that don’t tie into physical attractiveness. Like for example I really like the sensation of drumming softly on my fat belly. It’s silly! It’s fun! And I find it satisfying for some reason I can’t put into words.
I’m definitely not gonna seduce someone or be on the cover of a magazine because I’m a huge dork that enjoys this part of being fat. But it’s still important.
Or another example, also relating to my fat belly. By some miracle of the universe, my fat belly is the PERFECT size and shape for resting my arthritic hands. The way hands curve when relaxed sometimes makes my pain worse but perfectly flat hands also hurt and by some miracle of fate resting my hands gently on the curve of my belly gives me brief respite from the worst of the pain.
So yeah my fat belly is nice for reasons that don’t tie into attractiveness or beauty and that’s good!
I know that if women wish to escape the stigma of husband-seeking, they must act and look like marble or clay - cold, expressionless, bloodless; for every appearance of feeling, of joy, sorrow, friendliness, antipathy, admiration, disgust, are alike construed by the world into the attempt to hook a husband. Never mind! well-meaning women have their own consciences to comfort them after all. Do not, therefore, be too much afraid of showing yourself as you are, affectionate and good-heartened; do not too harshly repress sentiments and feelings excellent in themselves, because you fear that some puppy may fancy that you are letting them come out to fascinate him; do not condemn yourself to live only by halves, because if you showed too much animation some pragmatical thing in breeches might take it into his pate to imagine that you designed to dedicate your life to his inanity.
Charlotte Brontë writing to a friend who had been kind to a man she thought was married, only to have him fall in love with her because he thought she was flirting (letter dated April 2, 1845). (via the-library-and-step-on-it)
